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Embed your voice on your blog or website!

Oh my gosh, I can't believe we've got this!!! We've been dreaming and dreaming and dreaming of the day when our brilliant tech team would have this ready for The Motherhood and we're so excited it's finally here!!!

Think YouTube for your voice!!

Here's mine (just turn on your speakers and press the little arrow on the right):

Fun, right?

You can do it too. Here's how -

Go to The Motherhood.com and sign up. Be sure to put in your cell phone number when you're signing up because our system only accepts calls from cell phones that are registered with The Motherhood. It takes just a minute to sign up, then once you're done, call this number - (412) 282-1182 - and leave a message. Your voice will show up immediately on your home page (or any Circle you designate), and you can grab the embed code and post your voice on your blog or website. It's that easy.

I've got the number on my cell phone speed dial so I can call in and leave messages when I'm out and about. (My Mom loved when I posted a recording on The Motherhood of my daughter playing the piano, so I'm going to do more with them talking into the phone too.)

Have fun - and go to The Motherhood News Circle and let us know how you're using this fun tool.

Live from The Motherhood!

The day is here! The Motherhood, new and significantly improved is open for business. I am so thrilled and excited and happy it is hard to describe what a ride this has been. I got up at 4 am this morning and wrote this post to try and say what this day means to me. Please go visit and stop by and say hi! We are so proud of it and I really hope you love it as much as we do.

The MotherHood.com Re-launch

Emily and I are so proud and excited to announce that our site, The Motherhood will appear next week entirely new, significantly improved and very, very special.

For the last year we have been working so hard with our brilliant team of technical wizards to realize the dream we've had for so long. Finally it is here. And it really great, in our honest opinion!

Look here for more details over the next week. Stay tuned!

We can't wait to see you there.

Anna Quindlen

I'm an huge fan of Anna Quindlen who writes a bi-weekly column for Newsweek. When the magazine arrives, I immediately turn to last page (and am always disappointed on the weeks it's George Will writing and not her) and as I walk into the house, balancing the mail, my purse, and all the stuff I grabbed from the back seat of the car, I start reading. She's a mom first and always, and gets right to the heart of whatever's going on in our world or hers.

So, I thought I'd share a handful of my favorites -

Home Cooking
Sending the kids off to college is one rite of passage. But it's when they finally leave for real that the biggest breach begins.
First paragraph: The other day my son cooked breakfast, lunch and dinner, all in a single frying pan. Scrambled eggs, grilled cheese, shell steak. That last required my assistance, a shorthand recipe typed into my handheld in the middle of a drowsy late-day meeting. "High heat," it began. An hour later the meeting was still going on and a return message arrived: "Thanks for the help."

Good Boy, Beau. Stay.
Put a pork roast in the oven, and the guy still breathes as audibly as an obscene caller. The eyes and ears are gone, but the nose is eternal.
First paragraph: I am that most pathetic of human creatures, a human who walks into a veterinarian's office without an animal. "Beau?" the woman behind the desk calls, and I rise. Dr. Brown ushers me back into an examining room kitted out with a bottle of preserved heartworms, and sends me off with a prescription refill and the promise of a house call when necessary. The house call will be for the purpose of euthanasia, but neither of us says the word.

Everyday Equality
Each of us rose on the shoulders of women who had come before us. Move up, reach down: that was the motto of those worth knowing.
First paragraphs: I came to feminism the way some people come to social movements in their early years: out of self-interest. As a teenager, I was outspoken and outraged, which paired with a skirt was once considered arrogance. When I was expelled from convent school I was furious. Now I am more understanding. Would you have wanted to be the nun teaching me typing?

I got on the equality bandwagon because I was a young woman with a streak of ambition a mile wide, and without a change in the atmosphere I thought I was going to wind up living a life that would make me crazy. As my father said not long ago, "Can you imagine what it would have been like if you had been born 50 years earlier? Your life would have been miserable."

THE GOOD ENOUGH MOTHER
Forget about day camp of mandatory gymboree. What's the point of raising kids if we don't have a good time and a few laughs?
First paragraphs: There was a kind of carelessness to my childhood. I wandered away from time to time, rode my bike too far from home, took the trolley to nowhere in particular and back again. If you had asked my mother at any given time where I was, she would likely have paused from spooning Gerber's peas into a baby's mouth or ironing our school uniforms and replied, "She's around here somewhere."

By the new standards of mothering, my mother was a bust. Given the number of times I got lost when I was young, she might even be termed neglectful. There's only one problem with that conclusion. It's dead wrong. My mother was great at what she did. Don't misunderstand: she didn't sit on the floor and help us build with our Erector sets, didn't haul us from skating rink to piano lessons. She couldn't even drive. But where she was always felt like a safe place.

I'll Never Stop Saying Maria
Swimming underwater at 2, jumping off the diving board at 3, barreling off a cliff into the Caribbean at 5 -- that's my wild, brave girl
First paragraph: Sixteen years ago something unexpected happened: I became the mother of a daughter. Our assumptions about the unlikelihood of this had a weird logic, my husband the eldest in a family of six boys, our first two children sons. Third time around I looked exactly the same (enormous), and my habitual nausea had given way to my habitual urge to eat anything with salt or sugar and most of what lay in between. Which explains why, when our doctor said, "A little girl," I upended that newborn right there in the birthing bed and double-checked.

And this week's piece - a must-read:
This Is Important
The country is in a mess. Do not be distracted by the gossip, nonsense or lies. The time to really focus on the facts is now.
First paragraph: Today is the first day of the rest of this presidential election. Pay close attention. Do not get sidetracked. This is a message to myself. I, too, got snookered by small-bore bickering and secondary ephemera. I sat in front of the television and listened as so-called surrogates for the candidates played gotcha with obfuscation, misdirection and outright lies. A presidential election is a game now, and we're not playing, we're getting played. With very few exceptions—hats off to you, David Gergen—nothing being said has much to do with the future of this country or the well-being of its citizens. As a wise woman said to me the other day, talking points and talking are two very different things.

We Feel Fine

From Jen Lemen, check out this incredible TED talk by Jonathan Harris and his website, called We Feel Fine, that takes the feelings people are expressing around the globe and maps them graphically.

The bailouts

As our financial behemoths melt down, and the government swoops in with huge bailouts, we need to see some reasonable parameters put in place. Tom Evslin's set of rules for brokerages, banks and insurance companies make a ton of sense to me (thank you Fred Wilson for the link) -

Rule #1: Cut salaries now

Part of the bailout bill ought to be that any organization which proffers securities for government purchase must agree not to pay any employee or contactor more than $1 million per year for the next four years. No cheating with trips to events on the corporate jet or other perks with draconian penalties TO THE RECIPIENT for violations.

Rule #2: No new golden parachutes

Some executives have contracts which entitle them to huge golden parachutes – especially if their pay is cut. These need to be annulled.

Rule #3: End payment on old golden parachutes

Payments on existing golden parachutes should be stopped.

Rule #4: No dividends for a year

This seems harsh to us shareholders who may have bank securities in our portfolio, but it's not. Clearly an organization which is being bailed out needs to conserve cash to survive.


Smart, right? Drop a line to your Congressman or Senator letting them know your thoughts on this. They're making these decisions right now and hearing from us can make a BIG difference.

Girlfriends

It's a crazy busy time of year, what with the kids going back to school (another parent-teacher evening please?) and the intensity of getting ready to relaunch The Motherhood, so my lunch in the city yesterday was a bright shining oasis.

The occasion was my friend Jacque's 60th birthday, and it was a fun, hilarious, wonderful celebration, the gist of which was-

It's all about our girlfriends, girls.

Twelve of us were there to celebrate Jacque's big day - some had known her forever, some for 10 or 15 years and some like me who are newer friends. We were told not to bring presents, just be prepared to say a few words. And so we talked. The stories were brought-tears-to-my-eyes funny, and moving, and all about being there for each other through thick and thin. As one friend said, "everyone's saying the kinds of things that don't usually get said until there's a funeral."

We kept coming back to Jacque's great capacity for friendship and how much that mattered when the big stuff in life showed up. Many talked about Jacque being the friend they needed when they really needed one. And Jacque told great stories, saying the same about them.

After an amazing couple of hours with these wonderful women, I floated out of the party, found my way back to my real, day-to-day life, and here's what I've been thinking about since -

- When life unfolds as it does - with good times, sadness, struggles and whatnot - our girlfriends hold onto the memories with us. All those times we talk things through together, help each other through the day, figure out what we're learning along the way, and laugh of course, we're creating this great stash of goodness that layers in the meaning now and later on.

- I lovelovelove my girlfriends but I wish I had and made more time for them. I've been beating myself up about this because I want to be a better friend and I'm tired of putting inconsequential things first. What's with all the busy-ness? So, I'm trying to turn over a new leaf. I'm going to reach out to a friend each day (and not feel guilty about taking the time for me and them). I'll keep you posted, but as I said, I've been thinking about this for awhile, and I'm feeling a shift coming on.

- When it comes to hanging with my girlfriends, if the choice is between a big bash or getting together for some great converation, hands down, I'll take the bonding. Throw in some champagne, good food and a beautiful setting, and we're set.

- Having girlfriends who are are both older and younger might just be the key to staying young.

- And as a side note from the party, if you want to kick off a conversation with a group of people, ask everyone to say something about their name. You'll get a great mix of personal histories, and if they don't all know each other before, after hearing the stories, everyone's names will be cemented in their brains.

Happy, happy birthday, Jacque, my friend! It was wonderful to celebrate with you and I look forward to many more!!!


What a summer

Headhome

Whew, ok this has been the most action packed summer of my life. Not only are we totally rebuilding TheMotherhood from scratch (it is going to be so completely awesome, stay tuned -- very soon!) my family and I have been on the road, traveling to all kinds of cool places for most of the summer. Our latest journey was to Brooklyn, NY for our oldest daughter to spend a totally AWESOME week rocking out at the Willie Mae Rock Camp for Girls. She went last year too and this time was even more magic than last time.

Willie Mae is one of the most amazing camps in the world. The girls spend a week writing songs, forming bands, learning instruments, learning self defense, studying the history of women in rock and having a screaming, jumping, rocking awesome time.

Here are some photos from last year. As soon as I download them, I'll post some shots from this year.

In the meantime, Go Obama (my younger daughter in Williamsburg, Brooklyn this weekend.)


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Summer continued

More from our totally filled to the brim summer.

Henna ankle tattoos for the girls and me:

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And drip castles:


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Live feed from the Olympics in Beijing!

I love the Olympics, and a number of years back got to watch them in Italy - what a difference! Instead of all our canned, human interest stories, Italian television kept the cameras on the track and field events for hours, going from one event to another, depending on what was happening in the moment. By the time some of the really good pole vaulters, runners and high jumpers had their turn, you could see how really amazingly good they were compared to the ones who'd gone before.

Even better, we got a feeling for what it was like inside the stadium as the competitions unfolded. It was incredibly suspenseful, to the point that we had to limit the amount of time we spent in front of the TV so we could go outside and enjoy Italy.

For those of you who want to get a real-time feel for the Olympics in China, here's a link to a live television feed. It's Friday morning, and the Opening Ceremony is happening right now. Funky, discordant Chinese music is being played on ancient instruments as I write this - a whole new sound for us westerners. Not likely we'll hear it on the NBC broadcast tonight, do you think?

Enjoy!

More summer

We went to Wyoming in June for the full-on cowboy experience. It was SO FUN. If you ever want to try a dude ranch, let me know and I can fill you in on what we learned and how to best do it with little kids (at least from our perspective!) Some photos (that's us on the big hillside riding one beautiful morning):


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Summertime

We've been working away on the complete re-build of TheMotherhood this summer, so, as you can tell from our light posting, we've really had our heads down. We CAN'T WAIT to go live and show you the very special tools we've been creating. I am so proud of what our site is going to be.

Needless to say, this has been a wonderful and exciting summer. Emily and I live in different towns, but this summer we met in Chautauqua for the month of July with our families and had a magical, amazing time together working and playing on the lake.

This picture of Emily's and my kids at dusk is pure summer to me.


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Wii have winners!

Wow, we had 490 of the most amazing entries to our Wii Fit giveaway! Thank you everyone for contributing your stories to the contest. We were so moved, and laughed a lot, too, as we read through all of them.

Our independent panel of judges reviewed the comments and narrowed it down to around 20 finalists. We took those finalists and did a random drawing for the winners.

Here they are, congratualtions!

Winner # 1 -- Shel

After having 4 children, the pounds started to creep on. Last October, I lost my father. While doing the memorial board, I realized there weren't any pictures of me. That's because I'd gotten so heavy, I wouldn't have my picture taken anymore. I joined Weight Watchers the next week. I started out at 202lbs-at 5'4" tall, that's a lot of weight. I've lost almost 30 pounds so far and have begun using the treadmill at work after my shift is over. I've read about the Wii Fit and I'm sure it's for me. I'd be able to use this during the day while the kids are at school. My funniest workout story: A few years ago I spent big money and joined a gym. My youngest was just a baby then and I was always running late trying to get her dressed and packed for the on-site childcare they had there so I could make the aerobics class. I threw some clothes in a bag and dashed out the door, barely having time to drop her off in the childcare room and change into my workout clothes. I did the whole class not realizing the workout pants I had chosen had the butt chewed out of them from the dog-there was a nice gaping hole in the back. I'm sure everyone behind me that day got a laugh out of staring at my underwear. Hey, if I win the Wii Fit, I can do it in my underwear without anyone laughing at me! Posted by: Shel | May 23, 2008 at 11:42 PM

Winner # 2 -- Beverley Justice

I got the dreaded diagnosis of Diabetes Type 2 in 2002. Years of prednisone therapy for MS had left me many pounds heavier since high school. I was taking medication twice a day just to keep my sugar level at a reasonable level. Then, I started going to the YMCA and walking mile after mile around the track. In the beginning, a mile would take me 45 minutes. Now, I can walk a mile in 18 minutes. Much better. I have better news than that though. Now, I'm off the medication for diabetes and control my blood sugar levels with diet and exercise. You could not have convinced me that this would be possible that first day the doctor told me I am diabetic, and my life was changed forever. He was correct, it has changed forever, but I believe in a much more positive way than either one of us could have hoped for. Posted by: Beverley Justice | May 26, 2008 at 03:26 PM

Congratulations to the winners (we'll be emailing you shortly) and thank you everyone for being a part of the contest!

Announcing The Motherhood/Been There "How Wii Want to Get Fit" Giveaway!!!

Everyone - big news! We're giving away two brand new, sparkling Wii consoles and Wii Fit games and balance boards, thanks to Nintendo!!!!!

In the unlikely event you haven't heard of the Wii Fit, that might be because they only arrived in stores this week. The Wii Fit has 40+ exercises and games (like yoga, aerobics, ski jump, snowboarding, tightrope walking, hula hoop, strength training, stretching), and all sorts of other great wizbangs, like checking your "Wii Fit Age" and BMI, weight tracking and goal setting.

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Here's what you do to enter The Motherhood/Been There "How Wii Want to Get Fit" Giveaway:
We're thrilled Nintendo has asked us to give away, here and on the Motherhood.com, the Wii console and Wii Fit balance board and games to two lucky winners!!!!

Tell us your "Been There" fitness journeys. If you're a blogger, post to your blog and link back here. If you don't have a blog (and following CityMama's lead), only if you don't have a blog, post your entry here in the comments below.

Possible topics include:

-- balancing health and motherhood
-- ups and downs of your personal fitness crazes
-- funniest workout story
-- proud moment in fitness (doing a triathlon or achieving a goal)
-- how a Wii Fit will improve your life
-- the crazy lengths you'll go to to make sure you use your Wii every day
-- or, in keeping with the Wii advertising campaign, "How will it move you?"

Get talking about health, weight, fitness - in as few or as many words as you like - and you're entered. If you blog this, put a mention in the comments with a link to your post. Make sure you put in a valid email address so we can be in touch if you win.

The contest ends on Friday, May 30th and we will announce the winners on Monday, June 2, 2008. (Family members can't enter - sorry Mom!).

To get inspired, here are a couple of links on the Wii Fit:

CNN review

New York Times spread

Wii are really look forward to reading everything you have to say!!!! Jump right in - don't be shy - Wii can't wait to hear from you!!

Oh, and if you really want to test your luck, our fellow Wii Ambassadors are hosting their own Wii and Wii Fit giveaways -

Stefania at Citymama
Tracy at Mother May I
Dana at Mamalogues

And for a very fun read, Jenny at Three Kid Circus has chosen the winner of her contest and the entries are hilarious!!

Wii Fit Fun

Here's a great combination - a bunch of really fun women, yummy mojitos and munchies and a Wii Fit!

Cooper and I hosted Wii parties last summer for our friends and had a fantastic time, so we were psyched when Nintendo asked us to throw parties for the Wii Fit.

First of all, let me just say, the invitation couldn't have come at a better time for me. I am in just about the worst shape of my life and have been bemoaning how bummed I am that bathing suit season is practically here and how bored I am at the thought of going to the gym, taking up running, or doing much of anything else to kick my sorry self into gear. It's a big drag and I haven't been doing a thing about it. For way too long.

Soooo ... give me a new system that's fun, hilarious and totally distracting, and oh - it's a workout too - and I'm there.

But, back to the parties. Cooper and I both had a bunch of girlfriends to our houses to try out the Wii Fit's 40+ games and exercises. Let me just say, you need to do this with your girlfriends. It was crazy funny.

At my house, the highlights were watching Dottie do the ski jump, Priscilla boxing her heart out (with her sister Sara cracking up), Lianne doing some wild hula-hooping, Betsy getting a Wii Fit age that is five years younger than she actually is, and Jill balancing. Me ... well, my proudest moment was when I tried the ski jump, flubbed it and became a big rolling ball of snow with skis sticking out, crashing down the mountain.

Here are some pics from our parties--

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And my personal favorite -- all of us plopping to the floor for a break and a snack, only to realize we had create a circle around the Wii Fit Board - our own campfire-kumbai-yah moment around the Wii:

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I've turned over a new leaf and am exercising like the old days, only this time I'm downhill skiing, running past waterfalls, heading soccer balls coming at me, and breathing through yoga positions -- all in my family room.

Thanks Nintendo and to your great team that put the parties on!

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We had a blast and loved being a part of the roll-out of the Wii Fit. Your team of engineers are inspired and they've come up with one very cool system. We love it!