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The Pittsburgh Post-Gazette features women bloggers -- including The Motherhood and Been There!

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Cute photo of me and my boys by Bill Wade, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette

The Pittsburgh Post-Gazette ran a wonderful story today by Mackenzie Carpenter on women bloggers and guess who was in it!

From the piece:

Locally, there's The Motherhood (themotherhood.com), a mommy blog network, but with a twist: While allowing mothers to share parenting experiences and information it also provides them with a chance to engage in the wider world, banding together as an online community to support maternal health initiatives or action on Darfur.

"We really are dedicated to mothers finding each other to make a difference in the world, not just 10 points on potty training," said Cooper Munroe, a 41-year-old Fox Chapel mother of four who, along with Emily McKhann, a colleague and business partner who lives in New York, launched the site in July.

The Motherhood gets a couple of thousand hits a day and was named site of the month by Parents magazine in September. Its incubation period dates to 2005, when Hurricane Katrina prompted Ms. Munroe and her friends to organize, through a small online blog they'd started called BeenThere.typepad.com, an 18-wheeler truckload delivery of clothes and food to victims in northern Louisiana.

"It was a real epiphany," she said. "I thought, 'Oh, my God, I can really make a difference with a baby in my lap and a computer.' "

Ms. Munroe then began to think about the Internet's possibilities as a way to bring mothers together "to make the world a better place," while balancing the demands of a family.

"Themotherhood.com is personal, political, kitchen table stuff in a new form," she said. "We call it 'big picture parenting.' We could all use big-picture views of what we want for our kids and ourselves."


Also included in the story is one of my all time favorite bloggers, who also happens to be a Pittsburgher - Elizabeth Perry of Woolgathering.

The Burgh Blog, by Pitt Girl is also a favorite, and if you know anything about The Burgh, you have to check it out.

What would you take with you?

Aldon Hynes has a post up today asking 'what would you take with you?" in the event of a catastrophe like the San Diego fires. As Aldon says,

I’ve become much less attached to different objects. What matters to me, beyond my family, is mostly up online, my blog entries, my photographs. So, I don’t have a good answer to the question.

For me, if I had to make a quick grab, I'd take the diaries I wrote for each of my girls during her first year, my photo albums from the pre-digital era, and the painting of my grandmother that my mother gave me recently. If I had a bit more time and enough room, I'd take letters, mine, my mother's, my grandparent's. It's all about family and connection, and all the other stuff would be secondary.

Aldon concludes by saying,

There are objects in our lives that tie use down. There are symbols in our lives that lift us up. It is important to know which is which.

How about you -- what would you take?

Blog Day for MOTHERS Act - Round-Up

Wow, did the blogosphere get behind this one! Go to Postpartum Progress to see the list of all the bloggers who got onboard!!!

Thanks everyone for writing, commenting, and calling the Senators to tell them to pass the MOTHERS Act!!!

Blog Day for MOTHERS Act - October 24

BlogHers Act: Blog Day for the Mothers ActKatherine Stone appeared this morning on The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet to talk about Blog Day for MOTHERS Act -- happening this Wednesday -- and did a wonderful job.  Go to the Mike and Juliet site to watch Katherine talking in the Green Room after her interview and see what a natural she is on camera. 

We're getting behind Blog Day for MOTHERS Act tomorrow because as Katherine says,

Postpartum depression is a serious and disabling condition that affects up to 20 percent of new mothers -- as much as 800,000 American women each year.  Yet only 15 percent of these women will receive any assessment or treatment.  Let me repeat.  With all we know and as smart as we are, only 15% of 800,000 women will get diagnosed and treated.  That is so wrong on so many levels.  Women are not being diagnosed because they're not being educated and they're not being screened.  Untreated, the consequences of maternal mood disorders range from chronic, disabling depression to death.  The impact of untreated maternal depression on infants/children ranges from behavioral and learning disabilities to depression and, in the worst case scenarios, death from infanticide."

Here's what Blog Day for MOTHERS Act is all about (thank you again, Katherine):

On Wednesday October 24th, BlogHer, Postpartum Support International and Postpartum Progress are joining together to host Blog Day for the MOTHERS Act.  We're asking bloggers from around the country to write about the MOTHERS Act for postpartum depression on the 24th and to encourage their readers to pick up the phone that day, call their Senators and urge them to endorse this critical legislation.  I hope you will join us in this effort, which is part of the overall BlogHers Act 2007-2008 initiative to improve maternal health.

What is the MOTHERS Act?  The Moms Opportunity to Access Help, Education, Research and Support for Postpartum Depression Act, or MOTHERS Act (S. 1375), will ensure that new mothers and their families are educated about postpartum depression, screened for symptoms and provided with essential services.  In addition, it will increase research into the causes, diagnoses and treatments for postpartum depression.  The bill is sponsored by Senators Menendez and Durbin.

So,   

1. Blog it on Blog Day for The MOTHERS Act tomorrow, October 24, 2007


2. Share your link at BlogHer

3. Proudly display the badge in this post stating you're going to do the above.

4. CALL YOUR SENATORS AND ASK THEM TO SPONSOR AND SUPPORT THIS LEGISLATION!!!

5. Go to Postpartum Support International to get all the contact info you need.

We're hoping a LOT of bloggers will get in on the act on Thursday.  Your post doesn't have to be long.  Just let everyone know you support the bill, and you hope they'll agree with you, and call their Senators.

And every one of us, let's pick up the phones tomorrow.  Even if you've never ever called your Senator before, give it a try.   It takes a couple of seconds, and all you need to do is say to the person who answers the phone that you're calling because you want the Senator to vote for the MOTHERS Act, Senate Bill 1375.  Telling him or her that you vote and you live in the Senator's state.  That's it.  They'll make a note of it, and you're done.  And you'll feel great because you've been heard and because you could make the difference in getting this bill passed into law. 

Fires in Southern California

We're all devastated watching what's unfolding in southern California as hundreds of thousands of people are being evacuated from their homes, and thousands of homes and buildings have burned to the ground.

A conversation in The Motherhood got started about what we might do to help, so we've created a group within The Motherhood where anyone can post important information, in particular useful websites, articles or video clips, and where we can talk together about the disaster and even how we might lend a hand.

If you know of important resources, please post them to the Group Link List.

If you'd posted to your own blog about the fires, or have read posts that you want others to see, please post them to the Group Link List too.

Most importantly, if you are one of the many people who have lost everything to the fires, please know that our hearts go out to you and we are thinking of you and wanting to do everything we can to help. At the very least, we're all here to lend a shoulder and an ear.

Mothers and Grandmothers

I have always felt a special connection to my grandmother, Emily Priest McKhann.  I was named after her, I've often been told I look like her, and I was born in the same hospital where she died a few weeks after giving birth to my Dad. 

Emily (we never referred to her as Grandma) died of an infection that could have been treated with penicillin if the cure had been available then.  My grandfather was left with two very young boys. Over the years, I often wondered how Grandpa coped with his sudden loss, what it was like for my Dad and uncle growing up without her, and what Emily was like.

She has been on my mind because I'm at the Women Deliver conference in London.  Thousands of people are gathered here because they want to save women's and girls' lives around the world. 

With reason.  Half a million women - one every minute -- die from pregnancy or childbirth every year. 

As they say here, "a woman shouldn't die giving life." 

And as Jill Sheffield, the inspiring leader of Family Care International and the force behind the conference said -- 40% of all pregnancies have complications and 15% have life-threatening complications.   Yup, that's right, we're talking ALL pregnancies.

So, if you're one of the 15% of pregnant women at risk and you happen to live in a place with good prenatal care, emergency obstetrics and passable roads, you'll probably live.  If not, you probably won't. 

I can't even imagine my fear if a friend or family member told me she was pregnant and we lived in a country where 1 in 6 women die in pregnancy or childbirth, as happens in Afghanistan and other countries.  (Compare that number to 1 in 30,000 dying in Sweden, and 1 in 4,800 dying in the U.S.) 

Or what my community would be like if so many of my friends and neighbors died after getting pregnant. 

The Lancet, among the most prestigious medical journals in the world, published a special issue, timed to the conference, on maternal health.  The lead-in editorial starts with

"20 years ago, the Safe Motherhood Initiative was launched by WHO and others to help reduce the severe global burden of pregnancy-related illness and death.  Sadly, today, most of that burden remains unchanged.  Over 300 million women in the developing world suffer from illness brought about by pregnancy and childbirth, and nearly 536,000 die each year.  Additionally, newborn babies, whose mothers die in childbirth are three to ten times more likely to die within 2 years than those whose mothers survive.

… Much can be learned from the HIV/AIDS world.  The strong wave of AIDS activism in the 1980s and 1990s, and well-organised groups of civil society demanding access to life-saving services has given justified prominence to HIV/AIDS.  Activism around maternal and child health has not gained anywhere near the same traction - a sad reflection of the low status accorded to women's issues in political circles."

Mary Robinson, the former President of Ireland, talked about being back in Dublin a short while ago and visiting a hospital.  A pregnant woman had died in delivery that day and the whole hospital was mourning.   As she said, around the world, these deaths should be so rare that that would be the response everywhere.

The consequences of all these mothers dying are enormous.  Mothers take care of the family, buy whatever foods, medicines, and clothes everyone needs, make sure the kids get an education and work to make ends meet.  (Remember the Nobel Peace Prize for micro-loans?  The loans overwhelmingly go to women because they are devoted to making things better for their families.) The economic impact of losing all these mothers is $15 billion a year in lost productivity. 

But, here's the thing.  This problem is solvable.  It's not super complicated, like HIV/AIDs.  People know the answers.  It just takes money -- about $5 billion, a teeny tiny faction of global GNP -- and it takes will.  Political will.  For that to show up, we need leadership, and our leaders need to know that we care deeply about saving these lives.

Yesterday, at the start of the conference, Gordon Brown, the British prime minister announced that England is committing over $200 million to maternal health programs.  That's a good start, and there are rumors more commitments are coming today.  Let's hope.

On Monday, I'll post about other news and calls to action coming out of the conference, and possible ways we can add our voices, lend a hand and make a difference.

Thinking of Emily, I'm reminded of a family vacation my grandfather organized when I was in my 20s.  After dinner one night, to the surprise of all of us, he said, "Today was Emily's birthday, and here in the room tonight is every one of her direct descendents."  Grandpa was not a sentimental person, and he had never said anything like this.  After a pause, he continued, "I'd like to tell you something about her," and he went on to tell us about how they met, their courtship, her mother and father, some of the things he loved about her and stories of their time together. 

All those years later, and we still needed to fill a great big hole in our family.  There are so many holes to fill, far too many, around the world.  And for no reason - it's not like the solution hasn't been invented yet.

Emily Priest McKhann

Should Suitor Seek Dad's Approval?

Mackenzie Carpenter, the awesome Pittsburgh Post-Gazette reporter is looking for people to weigh in on a story she is writing. Here's the request in her own words:

Before proposing, some suitors are asking the father's permission first for the daughter's hand in marriage. Do you know anyone who has done this, and what do you think of the practice?

We are looking for readers to share their stories, on the record. Please contact Mackenzie Carpenter at mcarpenter@post-gazette.com.

Send Mackenzie an email or post a comment here!

Eleanor Smeal and Women Embracing Their Power

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Last weekend I had the opportunity to be on a panel discussing mothers' rights at the 35th Anniversary conference of Pennsylvania NOW. There is an amazing and proud history of women activists and feminism in this state, and, in particular, this city, but I did not fully appreciate it until I heard the founding members, especially the founding president of PA NOW and icon of the feminist movement (and Pittsburgher), Ellie Smeal, speak.

Hearing the stories of utter determination and complete dedication mixed with guerrilla activist tactics on issues ranging from the ERA to getting girls' sports made official, was funny, uplifting and deeply inspiring. Smeal talked about how they had no money and did not know any better 35 years ago (thank goodness), and so they charged ahead and did not let anyone get in their way. They fought hard to pass the ERA in PA, and they found incredibly creative tactics, like sitting down in the middle of football fields to protest the exclusion of girls' sports.

One thing that really struck me from Smeal's remarks was her time-tested belief that the critical mass for social change is five people. Yep, she said she has seen it time and again, if there are five people fully committed to a cause, anything can be done.

I wanted to share with you some of Smeal's words and I found an awesome quote from a panel Smeal was on a couple years ago to give you an idea of how amazing she is:

Eleanor Smeal closed the session by agreeing that leaders do not fit mythical molds – “leaders don’t always look like we imagine them to look like…[so] stop making snap judgments about who can lead…People we would never pick out to be leaders are often the ones who make real change,” she maintained. Smeal argued that leadership is situational and cultural, and that we must be more iconoclastic in our analysis. “Small women-owned businesses now employ more people in the United States than the Fortune 500,” and nonprofits, organizations led primarily by women, employ 15 percent of the labor force, she noted. Therefore, we must start considering and targeting these industries, elevating their importance, emphasizing the principal role of women, and creating power within our sector. “Women must begin to believe in our own power,” she exclaimed. Moreover, leadership studies that determine systemic changes to bring women and minorities to the fore are a critical component in this process to progress.

Smeal concluded with a reminder that women must stop putting themselves down: “Feminism is popular among young women and does have significant popular support,” she countered. She suggested that since women’s organizations have power and influence over half of the population, they must recognize, appreciate, and utilize their significant role and strength within society rather than consistently elevate men.

There is momentum building every day, with so much to do and so much to accomplish. And sometimes looking back and listening to what has already been done gives us an idea of the direction we need to take, doesn't it?

If Ellie Smeal finds this post: Ellie, I would love to invite you to an online discussion on The Motherhood. I am really eager to ask you what you think of online organizing, especially for mothers, and how that can best translate to off-line social change. Thanks!

Emily in NYC protesting against "toxic toys"

Blog Action Day

Bloggers Unite - Blog Action Day

Today is Blog Action Day for the environment. Be sure to blog about the environment, check out this site for actions to take and sign the letter to world leaders at Cool It Moms!