I'm reading Daniel Pink's new book, Drive and of course, since it is a book about what motivates us and gives life more meaning, TheMotherhood, its rebuild, the community and our projects are fully on my mind as I read.
Using incredibly interesting studies and science to back up his argument, Pink makes the case that more money/stuff/"bribes" or more rules/punishments/supervision won't ever work for truly, productively motivating a work force, a family or yourself.
For most, true happiness and well being come from something bigger. Having autonomy in our lives and always learning and creating are a big part, but - as TheMotherhood knows full well - it also has a whole lot to do with making a difference, being part of something that has purpose and, as much as possible, leaving things a little better than you found them.
It's not easy to get there. And Pink argues that getting to the point of "mastery" in one's profession and life takes years and years, lots of drudgery, hard work and mountains to climb. But for those who love what they do, the mundane, tough moments are easier to bear. It's the people who can climb those mountains, and don't quit, who really accomplish many of their dreams.
Isn't that basically what mothers since time began have been telling their kids?
I often think about the phrase, "overnight sensation" and how there really is no such thing. Our kids might think stardom and success came instantly and effortlessly to those kids on Disney Channel, but the reality is most of those kids have probably been on auditions since toddler-hood. As my mom always said, "There's no free lunch." I guess that's what she meant.
In his book Pink talks about the fact that people who are motivated by "something bigger" tend to find more happiness in their day-to-day.
We have seen this countless times in TheMotherhood. When we know that what we are a part of has greater meaning, there is an added element of joy, excitement, peace and accomplishment.
In simple, sweet sentences, our neighbors have posted over 78 pages about the things in their life that give them purpose and add a higher meaning to their days.
Like this one from LaMooCafe:
1. a new job... baking bread for a local bakery/cafe in the early morning without missing life at home (i work 5-8 in the morning, I'm bake in time to make breakfast for my kids)2. Gymnastics. watching my girls enjoy themselves and letting me relax.
3. A husband who's willing to help the kids clean their rooms, and fold the mountain of laundry that was excavated from there...
Isn't that wonderful?
The other point made in Drive that resonated with me is learning, motivation, accomplishment and creating never end. Hopefully, you never stop the journey and never get to the final destination. Like one of my most favorite poems, Ithaka, that is what makes life so wondrous.
And it is with great pride and joy that Emily and I introduce you to the latest stop in TheMotherhood's journey. We are deeply motivated by where we've been, where we are and where we might go. It is our neighborhood of amazing women who provide the most motivating "something bigger" we could ever imagine and for that we are forever grateful and thank you from the bottoms of our hearts.
PS. For your viewing enjoyment, I include a TED Talk featuring Daniel Pink on this subject: